Christian dating when to get married
There is a progression that should take place in building a Christian dating relationship.The following is offered as a short Christian dating guide for Christian singles to consider as they build a Christian dating relationship.You need to know “what they are really like” before you move into a marital relationship. The couple has spent a good deal of time building their Christian dating relationship.They mutually agree that this relationship has the great potential of moving into marriage.And then pray that God would bring a husband into your life.You can pray boldly, because you're really asking God to give you what He wants you to have.The words aren't uttered loudly in many church circles.
Candidly, there is really little more in the Christian dating relationship during this stage than “physical attraction”. There is a temptation for Christian singles to begin saying, “I love you” during this fantasy stage. The emphasis should be upon enjoying each other’s company and building a FRIENDSHIP and refraining from going any further. After 2 to 3 months of this type of dating and it is mutually agreed, the Christian dating relationship can move into an exclusive dating arrangement.Pray that they will start to have God's perspective and vision for marriage for their own lives.Even if one of them doesn't end up being your spouse, you're praying in a way that will bless all of your sisters in Christ.These are very practical questions you can ask of someone fairly early on in a relationship in a non-threatening way and really get a picture of his character. The biggest danger of “soul mate-ism” is the idea that: "There’s one person out there for me, and if I can find this one person, then I’m guaranteed a happy marriage." Marriage is hard. Everyone in marriage will experience difficulty, because you’re uniting two sinners. Far better to go into it thinking, 'I have found the best possible mate that I can find given where I live, who I know and what I bring to the relationship. Even though it was so painful at the time to not have a date when everybody else did, I'm so thankful that I didn't come into my marriage with any relational baggage.
We’re both going into this knowing that we’re committed for life, that we’re both fallen and redeemed, and that at the foot at the Cross, we can make this work.' So lastly, what encouragement do you have for women who have never been kissed, never had a date and are growing weary of waiting? I'd never had a boyfriend until I met Steve [my husband]. The longer I waited, the more terrified I was that it would never happen. Start to pray boldly, passionately and intensely for the men who you know in your church or work.The stigmatism that faces single Christian women from both peers and from within is painful.