Coping rejection dating


06-Jan-2021 14:24

You " The problem is, when you’re out there trying to meet someone on dating apps—and even IRL—hurtful stuff happens all the time.It’s exhausting and depressing to constantly take everything so personally.Everything was going great until we had sex and he ghosted me. Soon after, a really cute guy from San Francisco messaged me on Tinder (we'd matched when I was in his area for a wedding).

That having been said, that worn-out aphorism offers the reader very little in the way of actual information. After all, you just got knocked off it and, to borrow another aphorism, no one ever tells you to put your hand back on a hot stove top.

In another unicorn of dating experiences, the guy who ghosted me after sex wound up un-ghosting me. He’s divorced and realized that he wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship yet, and admitted that he had his own patterns he needed to work on, like, for instance, withdrawing.

We talked about what had happened, and he explained why he’d been out of touch. While it was extremely helpful and comforting to hear that from him, I can’t count on this always happening.

While it’s still hard for me to not take it personally when a guy I know and like does something insensitive, I can let it roll off my back when someone I don’t know does, even when he’s cute and seems interesting.

Like a few weeks ago when another Tinder match I hadn’t met yet cancelled a date, promising to reschedule, and I never heard from him again, I didn’t even a shed a tear—or download one meditation app.

My friends keep insisting that it’s not, and I shouldn't take it as such.