Dating past forty
This is because, compared to men in their twenties and thirties, older men are often drowning in baggage."Most of them had lost their house ...many of them had two [marriages], so they'd lost everything twice [in divorce]," says Carole Lethbridge, a 73-year-old woman living in the Blue Mountains.Professor Imelda Whelehan, an expert on ageing and popular culture at the Australian National University, thinks the trend has resulted in part from the realisation, on behalf of media gatekeepers, that older viewers want to see their experiences reflected back at them."When I go to my local indie cinema here in Canberra, I'm one of the younger ones," said Professor Whelehan, who is 57.While many women in their 50s and up say they feel more sexually liberated than they did in their 20s — finally released from the worry of getting pregnant, and more comfortable with their bodies — they are frequently tumbling into bed with men who suffer from erectile dysfunction."I hear this from a lot of my girlfriends, and it's depressing," writer Kerri Sackville said."Finally, [they think] 'I'm going to have great sex', and it's not working, and there's nothing you can do about it."No wonder filmmakers and TV show creators have come running.But is the current spotlight on older women here to stay?Or will it sink back into the firmament like so many other trends — Truman Capote films, modern westerns — before it?
Would Razer, 49, mind joining him and his nine-year-old daughter to see Barbie Live: The Musical? And yes, she did mind."I wasn't getting laid tonight," Razer would later write."My vagina had fused shut like Barbie's." These dating experiences sound made up, the sort of stories you'd expect to see in a Girls for the menopausal set — if such a series existed.Our Souls at Night, a movie about a widowed pair in their 70s who climb through each other's windows for booty calls, has just been released in the US.And Australian columnist Kerri Sackville has just written a how-to-survive dating book for older women — inspired by her own horrific and hilarious experiences — that is currently sitting on her agent's desk.Prior to that, Amy Schumer, who wrote the skit, tried in vain for three years to find a woman willing to be in it.
In Australia, 50-something women in the media such as Lisa Wilkinson and Tracey Spicer have gained major traction for talking about their age.
But we also appear to be experiencing a perfect storm of sorts, with more prominent older actresses and journalists now happy to put their face to the taboo issue of older sexuality, and a backlash against media companies who are prejudiced against these stories.