Getting engaged after 6 months of dating


19-Nov-2019 08:19

I had always thought dating apps were for people who only want to hook up, and that wasn’t what I was looking for.

My thinking was that I’m not going to meet anyone that is driven and has good morals online.

(The average length of courtships in the study was two years, four months)…Speed can become a problem when it is driven by romance and fantasy because, unless one is extraordinarily lucky, the suitors discover that the partner was not as lovely as they had imagined.

Other useful takeaways:-Happily married couples shared many traits, including courtships that progressed smoothly toward marriage with little drama; their courtships had a quiet, romantic feeling, but as important, they sensed they were marrying someone who could be a good friend.-Unhappily married couples had low-key courtships that moved forward slowly because either one or both of the partners lacked much warmth or had difficult personalities.-Early exiters (what Huston calls “Country Music Romances”) divorced very quickly, within two to seven years of marrying.It can be quick, just a drink, but I would just love to meet you before Monday.” Before James, I had talked to a few guys on Bumble, but James was the first person that I actually met up with.We ended up meeting for a drink that Thursday night.I don't usually get nervous before dates because I just expect them to not work out.

But this was different — I was actually excited about it.I figured he had to be somewhat of a solid guy if we both had the same friends, right?



The combination of these circumstances has given rise to an entire niche of dating services that specifically orient at people who are looking for lifetime commitment and ignore all other possible purposes for a meeting.… continue reading »


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